In a few days Mason will turn one and I thought I would reflect on what I’ve learnt in the last year. Being a mum has brought me some of the greatest joys that I could ever imagined! It’s been the best year of my life and I find myself everyday wanting to just stop time.
During the final days of my pregnancy I was so worried about having everything ready. I was running around picking up last minute clothes and gadgets that the baby might need. The truth is you could own an entire baby store but never be ready for a baby. The change they have on your life is unbelievable but then once you settle in you can’t even remember life without them.
These are the biggest lessons I’ve learnt in the last year.
The days are long but the years are short
I remember seeing this quote about motherhood and after almost a year of being a mum, I couldn’t agree more. I’ve learnt to make the most of every moment because even though some days feel like they are never going to end I know Masons first years are going to fly by. One day he’ll be moving out of home and I’m one day going to miss the days of having a newborn. (I’m tearing up just typing this!)
I have learnt to say No
I have always really struggled to say No. I would always find myself committing to things that were inconvenient or time consuming and regretting it later. When it came to visitors, I never wanted to disappoint anyone so I would always say yes to anyone wanting to see Mason and would end up exhausted from looking after a newborn and entertaining visitors. I had to learn pretty quickly to prioritse being a mum and making sure I said no to anything that wasn’t important. Once I freed up my time I could cherish the quality, people and things that really matter.
Trust your Instincts
This is pretty self explanatory but it has never been more important. There are so many opinions, voices and information out there when you are a new parent. There are milestones and guidelines and expectations and I think it’s important to be open but have always tried to follow my instincts when something just doesn’t feel right. Mums always know best!
Never Say ” I will never..”
I hate to admit it but when I was pregnant and even before, I would see certain things and think oh I will never do that when I’m a mum. Well, here I am doing all those things I said I wouldn’t. iPhone’s at cafe’s, Grocery shopping in his pyjamas, keeping him up past his bedtime, giving in when he says no. It’s easy to judge when you’re on the outside but when you’re looking after a child these things are actually so unimportant and if it keeps them occupied for 10 minutes while you eat breakfast without bothering everyone else in a cafe then so be it!
Online Shopping is your best friend
Ok, technically I’ve always known this but you never truly appreciate someone delivering something to your house until you are a time poor parent! Marks and Spencer has the most amazing collection of kids clothes. I have been shopping with them for Masons clothes since he was a newborn and my orders usually arrive within 3 days!
This collaboration was supported by Marks and Spencer and Shopping Links.